Monique

What is a healthy relationship? Is it one that has no conflict and is always peaceful? Is that even possible? Nope. As long as we are human, there will be conflict. There is no formula for the perfect relationship, but here are some things to consider to help you gauge the health of the connections you have: 1) Freedom – Are you free to be yourself and make your own decisions? Do you allow the other person to be free and make their own decisions without manipulation? 2) Transparency,...

Two of the most common phrases in my house during conflict are: 1) “What or who can you control?” and 2) “How do YOU want to show up?” or “Is that who you want to be?” I want so desperately to control outcomes—sometimes to the point of becoming hurtful. But is that really who I want to be? I like knowing what to expect. I want just or fair outcomes. I want to be heard. I want relationships to honor God, and I just want everything to be okay. But here’s the thing: we are all imperfect...

I don't know about you, but I find uncertainty very difficult. I want to figure things out and know how things will go. I like making a plan for the day and seeing it come to fruition. But how often does this actually play out the way we would like? I would say, seldom. As humans, we have an inherent desire for predictability and control. Uncertainty threatens this sense of control and it activates our brain’s threat-detection system. When we look at the Bible, it is filled with story after...